Family and Relationship Coach
Wendy Gossett M. Ed., CYMHS, is a Parenting and Relationship Coach, Certified Youth Mental Health Specialist, best-selling author, and host of the Not So Normal Parenting podcast based in Denver, Colorado. With a background in education, working directly with children in the classroom, and training leaders in Fortune 500 companies, Wendy helps parents decipher their children’s most puzzling behaviors, fostering a peaceful and cooperative home environment.
Wendy specializes in using temperament psychology to help individuals and families build healthier relationships. By developing self-awareness—recognized by the Harvard Business Journal as the number one quality for successful leaders—she empowers both parents and children to grow into their best selves. Wendy guides her clients to appreciate each other’s unique strengths, creating environments where differences are embraced, and challenges are met with empathy and respect.
Parents often come to Wendy because they want their children to behave better, but real change can only occur when we understand each other’s unique strengths and growth areas. By looking beyond surface behaviors and recognizing how your own expectations might blur your understanding, you can begin to respect and nurture your child’s true potential. When you embrace your child’s strengths—even those that differ from your own—you will begin paving the way for mutual growth and cooperation.
After parents complete personalized assessments for themselves and their children, Wendy carefully reviews the results, considering the intake questions and the ages of the children. Drawing on the principles of well-established psychological research, she compares these results with thousands of patterns she has observed over the years. Using these insights, Wendy creates an initial brain map for each family member—similar to what advanced EEG studies have shown in terms of brain activity related to different personality types. During your session, she will refine these maps through in-depth discussion, ensuring they accurately reflect each person’s unique traits and dynamics. When these maps are compared side by side, they reveal the blind spots causing tension in the family. With this understanding in place, Wendy provides practical tools to help families form deeper connections, share control, collaborate, motivate, cope with big emotions, and grow in the skills they may be lacking.
I had high expectations for what a mom-daughter relationship should be, especially with my background in education and experience in the classroom and corporate settings. But despite my qualifications, I couldn’t figure out how to connect with my own daughter, who was nothing like I had imagined. Both my kids were neurodivergent, with a long list of letters like, ADD, ADHD, OCD and SPD. But in addition to this, my daughter and I just couldn’t connect. The harder I tried, the worse it became. I grew increasingly frustrated by what I saw as weaknesses, wishing I could change her. As an expressive, creative, and scheduled person, I struggled to relate to my daughter, who was logical, practical, and free-spirited. The turning point came when I began to apply the temperament concepts I had used in my professional life to our relationship. I realized that her strengths were my weaknesses and vice versa, and that by understanding each other’s differences, we could both grow. Together, my daughter and I have learned that parenting is a two-way street, where we both teach and learn from each other. My challenging child became my reason, and her signature is on everything I do. 
I recently got stuck in a very bad jam. There was a twenty car pile up due to a Colorado blizzard and my kids and I were cooped up in our car for five hours! I decided to teach my kids an unwanted lesson they would never forget. When life gives you a jam, start jammin! The Backstreet Boys were on the radio, so what else was I to do? I never dreamed that this family video of my little parenting lesson would go viral all over the world and be seen by Hoda Kotb, Debra Norville, the BackStreet Boys, and even Princess Kate!
Maybe you have never been stuck on the highway for five hours, but there are many other types of jams you can get stuck in as a parent.
There is the jam sandwich that gets stuck to your backside because you dared to sit down after your three-year-old had lunch.
There are jammies that get stuck to your body because you are too busy feeding, diapering and chasing kids to ever put on regular clothes.
There is the cracker jam that happens when your son takes a RItz and jams it into his younger sister’s ear.
Or the toe jam when you kick a stray toy in the dark.
And as much as you try to “Let it Go,” that oh so popular kid jam gets stuck in your head after your aspiring young Elsa sings it for the 573rd time…. at the top of her lungs!
Or maybe you are like I was and you just don’t know the best way to parent one or more of your kids.
I get it. I’ve been there. I had two under two in diapers. Parenting is sticky business!