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Creativity and the NF

Many types are out of the box thinkers and extremely creative. I am amazed when an artist can paint something they dreamed up in their head or write a song that can move me to tears. I am ENFJ and although I am not as good at creating something from nothing,  I would still say that…

Questions About Thinking Types and Faith

Hi Wendy, As spiritual formation pastor, I have been pondering personality and a question on how personality types who are high "Thinkers" experience loving God. Do thinkers love God, or people, with a love that is more mind-oriented and much less heart-oriented? As a high Feeler, I have a hard time entering into a high…

Going Overboard: Confessions of an NF

Can you relate to this sentence? I sometimes have the tendency to go overboard and I don’t even own a boat! In my case, it happens quite often. My first child going out into the real world was cause for me to be inspired to go BIG for his fifth birthday party!  I would invite…

Introverted Sensing Types; or Lollipop Syndrome (OCD and Worry)

When my ISFJ (Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging) boy was three he would demonstrate some very interesting behavior. Whenever he would receive a lollipop or something of an equal fascination to a three-year-old, instead of devouring it, he would sit with it and stare at it. He loved to bask in its beauty and novelty, examining…

How J Types Go About Purchasing a Pillow

It’s a sad thing when you wake up injured! I always thought of my bed as a safe place, but I was mistaken! The bed has been infiltrated by an enemy! That enemy is my pillow! My $15 Laura Ashley Extra Firm Pillow from Bed Bath and Beyond may not seem like an enemy, but…

NF Passionate Parenting

I blew up at my sweet, wouldn’t hurt a fly, 11-year-old son one morning. Of course, I wasn’t planning on having this outburst, it came completely out of the blue! Almost every morning we either fight the battle of the missing shoes or the battle of the uncombed hair. On this particular morning, it was…

Lending a Hand Vs. Lending a Heart

When the phone rang at 3 o clock in the morning, I awoke with dread. My heart was thumping in my head as I lifted the receiver. “Hello?” I answered in a haze. It was my dearest friend, but it didn’t sound like her. “Gary’s dead” she said flatly. In sheer disbelief, I stammered out…

Choosing A Major in College

It is truly a testament to temperament that I ended up in a fulfilling career, considering that I really wasn’t all that self-aware as a Senior in High School. I went into college “undeclared” and had to switch my major four times before I landed on the course of study that was right for me.…

Parenting Your Opposite

I used to wish that my daughter and I were more alike. I dreamed of the day when we could go shopping together, have heart to heart talks over Starbucks and get our toenails done…rights of passages for girls. Instead, I watched my STP child (living in the moment, thinking vs. feeling) rip the heads and…

The Parenting Roller Coaster

We have all experienced the roller coaster ride of parenting! One minute we are enjoying a smooth, flat section of track and then, whoosh, the track drops out from under us and we wonder why we got on the ride in the first place! Our kids can bring us our greatest joys and also our…

No! THIS is How You Load the Dishwasher!

THE SJ or Structured Parent Darla was having a hard time figuring out her temperament. She was pretty evenly matched in the areas of check it off the box or leave the options open-ended. One is more controlling the other is more relaxed. One is in the box the other is out. She enlisted her…

The Explosive Child

Out of David Kiersey’s four personality types: two are fairly cooperative and will submit to authority and two will challenge that authority at every turn. If you have one of these challenges, you probably already know it.  I work with these types all the time and can tell you very specifically about how your difficult…

Is Your Child an Introvert, Extravert or Ambivert?

Sometimes it can be a bit puzzling to spot an introvert even if they are living under your own roof! If they are an ambivert or someone who possesses both introverted and extroverted qualities, it can be even trickier! In Susan Cain’s popular book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World that Can’t Stop…

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