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There are five universal negative behaviors that all personality types can exhibit: disobedience, aggression, high sensitivity, inattentiveness or hyperactivity. It is easy to see bad behavior in our kids, but it’s not as easy to see is the motivation behind that behavior. We may think we know, but our perspective may be biased based on…

In addition to knowing the four letters of your type, it is almost more important to understand your dominant and secondary cognitive functions. These functions comprise 90% or your personality and account for most of your strengths. Solar power is the most mystical of all the other power sources.  The solar satellite orbits the earth…

Dominant-ENFJ, ESFJ Secondary-INFJ, ISFJ (Judging) An electric commuter train is powered by the electrical current received through making contact with a power source. For Extraverted feelers or Harmonizers that power source is human interaction. Electric commuter trains are ideal for serving hundreds of people. All Fe types are propelled to help others, although SJ’s prefer helping in…

Sadly, our kids haven't dressed up for Halloween, or gone Trick or Treating for a couple of years now. Since every Sunday is "family day", I twisted everyone's arm to create a Wonka Vator out of a box I wrestled up from using the Nextdoor App. My husband was using his power tools to drill…

Parenting Lessons from "This is Us" based on each character’s Myer’s Briggs type, according to family temperament specialist, Wendy Gossett. Jack’s death in the Season Two finale of This is Us, brought many tears, but Milo Ventimiglia who plays the role encourages viewers that “there is still a lot of life left in Jack!” In…

Many types are out of the box thinkers and extremely creative. I am amazed when an artist can paint something they dreamed up in their head or write a song that can move me to tears. I am ENFJ and although I am not as good at creating something from nothing,  I would still say that…

Hi Wendy, As spiritual formation pastor, I have been pondering personality and a question on how personality types who are high "Thinkers" experience loving God. Do thinkers love God, or people, with a love that is more mind-oriented and much less heart-oriented? As a high Feeler, I have a hard time entering into a high…

Little 6-year-old Renee was having all kinds of anxiety issues! In addition to having trouble sleeping at night, she was having anxiety attacks about going to her piano and ballet lessons. At times her fear would turn into full-blown panic and her parents were at their wits end! I discovered that Renee’s Mom’s type was…

Jessica is the kind of youth minister you want your son or daughter to have! She has a heart to know each person in her group on a very deep level so that she can impact them in life-changing ways. Surprisingly, Jessica is a calm, cool and collected, INTJ or Intuitive thinker. NT’s typically are…

Can you relate to this sentence? I sometimes have the tendency to go overboard and I don’t even own a boat! In my case, it happens quite often. My first child going out into the real world was cause for me to be inspired to go BIG for his fifth birthday party!  I would invite…

When my ISFJ (Introverted Sensing Feeling Judging) boy was three he would demonstrate some very interesting behavior. Whenever he would receive a lollipop or something of an equal fascination to a three-year-old, instead of devouring it, he would sit with it and stare at it. He loved to bask in its beauty and novelty, examining…

It’s a sad thing when you wake up injured! I always thought of my bed as a safe place, but I was mistaken! The bed has been infiltrated by an enemy! That enemy is my pillow! My $15 Laura Ashley Extra Firm Pillow from Bed Bath and Beyond may not seem like an enemy, but…

I blew up at my sweet, wouldn’t hurt a fly, 11-year-old son one morning. Of course, I wasn’t planning on having this outburst, it came completely out of the blue! Almost every morning we either fight the battle of the missing shoes or the battle of the uncombed hair. On this particular morning, it was…

When the phone rang at 3 o clock in the morning, I awoke with dread. My heart was thumping in my head as I lifted the receiver. “Hello?” I answered in a haze. It was my dearest friend, but it didn’t sound like her. “Gary’s dead” she said flatly. In sheer disbelief, I stammered out…

It is truly a testament to temperament that I ended up in a fulfilling career, considering that I really wasn’t all that self-aware as a Senior in High School. I went into college “undeclared” and had to switch my major four times before I landed on the course of study that was right for me…

I used to wish that my daughter and I were more alike. I dreamed of the day when we could go shopping together, have heart to heart talks over Starbucks and get our toenails done…rights of passages for girls. Instead, I watched my STP child (living in the moment, thinking vs. feeling) rip the heads and…

We have all experienced the roller coaster ride of parenting! One minute we are enjoying a smooth, flat section of track and then, whoosh, the track drops out from under us and we wonder why we got on the ride in the first place! Our kids can bring us our greatest joys and also our…

THE SJ or Structured Parent Darla was having a hard time figuring out her temperament. She was pretty evenly matched in the areas of check it off the box or leave the options open-ended. One is more controlling the other is more relaxed. One is in the box the other is out. She enlisted her…

Out of David Kiersey’s four personality types: two are fairly cooperative and will submit to authority and two will challenge that authority at every turn. If you have one of these challenges, you probably already know it.  I work with these types all the time and can tell you very specifically about how your difficult…